When people talk about sex, they are usually talking about the penis-going-into-the-vagina part of it. And sometimes orgasm. But there is more to sex than actual intercourse. There is the lead-up, the act itself, and the ‘basking in the after glow’ part.

The lead-up is often called foreplay, and is often the most important part of sex. It can start while you’re still sitting in the restaurant, and it is said that the most sexual organ in our bodies are our brains. But once you’re done talking, flirting and working each other up, when you get to the house – or even the bedroom – take your time. Explore each other’s bodies, and use your mouth. Not there, but just kiss. Kiss long, deep and hard, and then begin to use your hands. Enjoy ‘making out’ like you did in high school, not hurrying and sensuously taking your time.

While your hands are wandering, you can start to kiss areas other than the mouth, but keep it above the chest. Neck, suck on earlobes and nuzzle. Find that sweet spot on her (and sometimes him) at the junction of the neck and shoulder and drive your partner wild. This is where sex begins!