Oral sex is using your mouth on your partner’s genitals. Sucking, nibbling, blowing gently, even biting (not too hard!) can all help to bring your partner to orgasm.

Start off with the making out bit (above) but continue down, again taking your time. You can concentrate on her breasts if you want (or his, if he wants) but you’ll eventually wind up at your partner’s crotch. If your partner is a male, cup his testicles gently and massage them lightly. Tug carefully, and move your hand/s to his penis. Slowly run your hand over the shaft, and lower your head. If you have a touchy gag reflex, use your hand as a guide so you don’t take too much into your mouth. Use your tongue around his head, and run it down the underside. You can suck hard, but be careful using your teeth.

If your partner is female, the vagina can be easily injured with stubble rash or a beard, so if you’re not completely freshly shaven, take great care. You can nibble the clitoris, sucking it gently, and burying your nose and face into her. If she is on top, allow her to dictate the speed and motion. If you’re in the 69 position, you can use your chin on the clitoris and your mouth and tongue in the vagina.