Anal sex has long been considered taboo, but if done correctly (and safely) it can be a valuable addition to any love-making repertoire. Anything from rimming (licking the anus) to full-blown penetration can be explored, provided both partners are consenting and ready. For the person receiving, lube and a decent warm up is essential. The anus is not self-lubricating like the vagina, and is not really meant for accommodating objects being inserted. But done right, it can be pleasurable.

Begin slowly, with plenty of lubrication, insert something small (like a finger). If the ‘ick’ factor is high, gloves can be worn (and in fact when rimming, a dental dam is highly recommended – a dental dam is a piece of latex used to cover the anus to protect from germs). Start with small movements, and you’ll feel the anus loosening. You can increase the number of fingers of the size of what you’re inserting as the anus widens. If penetration is the goal, remember not to go from anus to vagina afterwards – this introduces matter into the vagina that doesn’t really belong there. When introducing the penis or a larger object, take all your cues from your partner. If it hurts, stop.

Even just having something inserted into the anus during vaginal penetration can be a turn on for both partners – the male can actually feel the object while he is inside the female, and the female can feel pleasured with both entrances being accommodated. Remember with anal sex, cleanliness is a priority. Wash everything carefully afterwards!